I Have A Situation

 

I started working at my current job September '09. Shortly after I started working there one of the guys, I'll call him "Joe" started making stupid comments. "You're beautiful" "Your hot" "I'm in love w/ you" "If you weren't married, would you marry me" "If you weren't married, would you go on a date w/ me"

So annoying as hell....did it bother me, ehhh, it got on my nerves but I can take it. Then one day he started touching me, first it was his hand on the top of my back, then my lower back, rubbing my arms, and then one day while I was sitting in my chair touching my inner thigh. I flipped! But I still kept my mouth shut. I had just started, and I didn't want to be fired. The big boss scares the hell out of me.

Then it continued, and finally one day I was about to blow. So I asked my supervisor how I could make it stop. I couldn't take it anymore, I was really ready to hit him. So she went to the GM who pretty much told him to stop. They didn't fire him, and I was ok with that....thinking I wouldn't have to see him anymore because he now works at the building next door, and he has kids so I don't wanna see any kids go hungry. I might be pissed, but I still have a heart. But now, now that he wants to run his mouth, tell everyone that works here, and tell them that I lied, now my blood is boiling, and I am pissed. Now I don't care if he gets fired. Now I don't care if the b*&%^ goes to hell. Now, he has really pissed me off. Why should I be embarrassed by what he did? Why should I have to explain myself to these people? Why do I have to feel like I did something wrong?

 

Ok so I wrote the above part while I was at work and fuming. I had to write it or let it out of my mouth. When my supervisor came in I told her she could shut his mouth quietly or I was going to do it. She went to the GM again who called me in his office. Tears started flowing immediately. I'm telling you this man scares the hell out of me. In the office was myself, GM of where I work, my supervisor and the GM of the building he now works at. I explained to them that I didn't feel it was right that I had to be humiliated all over again, not only when he did it and I kept my mouth shut, but by him running around telling people, and obviously not the truth. GM asked me if I wanted him fired, said all I had to do was say the word and they'd fire him. Uhm...that's not my decision to make. I don't want that on my shoulders. As GM, that was and should be his call, to do what is right for the company. I can't make that decision. I can't risk his kids going hungry....I just can't. The mommy in me worries about the kids. Screw him, but the kids can't be punished for his ignorance. Pretty much bottom line, I told him I never wanted to have to see him again. They said that'd be done. How? I don't know and don't care. The GM asked me why I didn't say something sooner, here's why: I was the new girl, I didn't want them to think I was there just to start trouble. I didn't want to lose my job. But most of all, I didn't want what is happening to happen, I'm now uncomfortable at work. I love my job though. GM says to me that he sees and appreciates everything I do, that I'm a very valued employee and he thinks I am great at what I do. All very nice, but I don't ever want to see that S.O.B ever again. I don't ever want to hear from another person what he has told them. So now we will see.

Monday Minute

Continuing the co-hosts, this week it's Jana from Boobies, Babies, & A Blog is joining us! Yay! What a great funny blog she has. Very enjoyable, a great laugh, so go check her out.

On with the questions:

Has anyone you've known personally lived to at least 100?

Nope, especially nobody in my family...that I know of.
What material possession do you value the most? 

My ring, that my mother gave to me. I did a post on it not long ago.
What do you think happens to us after we die?
I'm a firm believer that our Lord will forgive our sins, outburst, and anger that at some point I felt for him, and I will go be reunited w/ all my loved ones who have passed. 

Most embarrassing item in your house?

It's not an item, more a room. The guest room, we haven't gotten around to painting it.
and finally...


If you could rename yourself, what would your name be?

Something unique, something different, and something w/ meaning.


LOL...why didn't anyone bother to tell me the writing was so tiny? I didn't do it on purpose! Well anyway I fixed it. 

Getting To Know You

So today is the "mostly girly" edition of GTKY..

*To play..copy the questions..answer them..then come back here and link up..you can also link up at Jen's blog*

The Questions
1.If you had 5000.00 to spend on plastic surgery what would you have done?
2. Do you watch Soap operas and if so what is your favorite and why?
3. Favorite clothing brand?
4. An afternoon shopping spree at your favorite store or maid service for a year?
5. would you ever vajazzle?
6. Favorite Disney Princess?
7. Last movie that made you bawl your eyes out?
8. Have you ever broken any bones and if so what? 

 

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1.If you had 5000.00 to spend on plastic surgery what would you have done?

 

Gosh, my boobs, my butt, and my tummy! Hmmm...I want a lot, but I couldn't pick just one. Those are the three that I want done.

2. Do you watch Soap operas and if so what is your favorite and why?

Nope, I have never really been in to soaps, and I probably never will.

3. Favorite clothing brand?

I don't have a favorite. Just love what looks good and fits the best.

4. An afternoon shopping spree at your favorite store or maid service for a year?

 Oh why would you make me choose between these two? I'd have to go for the maid service, my house stays clean all the time, but if she'll keep it cleaner heck yeah! 

 
5. would you ever vajazzle?

I can't say it's my thing. I'm not talented enough to do it myself, and I wouldn't dare let anyone but hubs near me.

6. Favorite Disney Princess?

No, not really. Just not a big Disney fan....just don't tell my sister.

7. Last movie that made you bawl your eyes out?

Uhm...every movie I see does this. Haichi really made me cry hard. 

8. Have you ever broken any bones and if so what?

I broke my wrist several years ago. I fell down the stairs and all my weight went on my wrist.

Some More Change & A Visitor

I couldn't handle the yellow on my blog, so I figured y'all couldn't either. So in light of my upcoming vacation, that is what y'all get to see. I can say that I'm extremely excited.

Thursday when I went to leave to work, I had a visitor sitting outside waiting for me, all patient!

Isn't he the cutest?!?

This is my new favorite song!!!

Monday Minute

This weeks Monday Minute brought to you by Ian, also has a cohost! So link up, read, share, and go visit others.

1 - Have you ever had any feelings towards one of your teachers back in the day?

I had a crush on one of my teachers, he was my history teacher in 7th & 8th grade. Can't remember his name now, but all the girls had a crush on him. To bad I hated history.

2 - What's the most embarrassing thing that happened while at work? (If you never worked then make something up)

Me have an embarrassing moment?!? Never! I really can't think of one though. I don't get embarrassed easily.
3 - When was the last time you crapped yourself?

Uhm....when I found out there was going to be another little Ian in this world...then I found out it wasn't true, so I uncrapped myself.
4 - What is one thing you have always kept a secret and why have you kept this a secret for so long?

I do have a secret, one I've had for a very long time. Not gonna tell you because then it wouldn't be a secret. Besides, if I wasn't worried about it being a secret then others would know. But it's my secret, that only I know, this way I know it will always remain a secret.

5 - What's your best advice for us habitual coffee drinkers as to not have to poop right after drinking it?

Is that why some people have a poop schedule? Is coffee the secret? I don't drink coffee, but thanks for letting that secret out. Advice, if ya don't wanna poop after drinking it....well don't drink it or take an anti-pooper pill.

Ok now head on over to Brittany's blog, and Ian's blog! Don't forget to link up!

Getting To Know You

Happy Father's Day to all you dads!

 This is the first time I will be playing along, and I'm excited to be a part of it sooooo....

Let's play some GTKY shall we..

*to play..copy the questions..answer them..then come back here and link up*

1. While at the beach, pool, etc..Do you cover up your assets or show them off?

Oh I cover it up, as much as I can. Between being stuck inside this body and my skinny self can't get out and the scars I have from all the surgeries, I cover it up!

2. Road trips or Plane trips?

Road trip, I will never ever get on a plane. Ok maybe some day I will be sedated enough brave enough, but that day is not today.

3. I can't stand it when...?

My kids don't listen, I have a headache, my boss is bossy, my husband farts, my dogs go crazy at strangers, I don't have money to spend, the bills need to be paid, plans don't go as planned, I go through baby fever, there's nothing on TV, I don't get to blog....the list goes on and on. Want me to continue?

4. Have you ever gone topless at the beach?

OMG....NOOOOO! I would never!

5. How many blog carnivals do you do a week?

Depends on my mood, sometimes 1 sometimes 2 or 3. Just depends.

6. My favorite thing about the weekend is...?

I don't have to work!

7. Pancakes or waffles?

Waffles, I can't handle the texture of pancakes in my mouth, it makes me gag.

8. Water Park or Amusement Park?

Water Park...it will keep me cooled off and I especially love lazy rivers! Oh and I can't do roller coasters, they tend to make me vomit.

Anything else ya wanna know?

I Got a New Award!

I am feeling super special right now! I got an award from Laura @ The Purse Blogger and I'm so excited. So the deal is I have to tell you seven things about myself and then pass it on. So that's what I'm going to do. **Note, no where in the deal of getting this award did it state the the seven things had to be the truth**

1. I love to read. I like to read books, and blogs.

2. Bowling is one of my favorite things to do also! Lots of fun, even if I do suck.

3. I'm 25 years old, and I love being this age!

4. I'm going on vacation in 2 weeks, and I can not wait!!

5. I am ALWAYS nice!

6. My favorite color is pink.

7. I have a hard time thinking of seven things about me.

Gosh that was hard, I can tell you anything about the kids or hubs, but me, I obviously know nothing about.

So now to give this to seven people.

1. Heather @ Two Little Monkeys Plus Hubby

2. Tammy @ Tammy's Two Cents

3. Modern Mom @ How To Survive Life in The Suburbs 

4. Shell @ Things I Can't Say 

5. Momma Fargo @ The Boogie Man Is My Friend

6. Truthful Mommy @ The TRUTH about Motherhood

7. Mimi @ He & Me + 3

Now quick, run over and check out these awesome blogs! You will love them all!

He Makes Me Happy

Ok suck it up people, I'm about to have a sappy moment. If you want to judge me on this then....shew....go away!

I love this boy, I love him with all my heart! He makes me laugh, he makes me happy, and sometimes he can frustrate the hell out of me, but mostly he makes me feel so loved.

Last July I made the decision to let him live with his dad. He has always wanted to, because him and dad have a lot in common. Because life is easier at dads and he doesn't have as many rules or chores to do. How could I let him go? How could I let him live away from me? It wasn't an easy decision....at all.

My baby boy has three very different sides to him. There is the sweet, loving, funny, well mannered, compassionate, caring, enthusiastic, playful, and everything great you can think of. 

Then there is the bad side, the side that is disrespectful, and I mean beyond normal child. He got in trouble, and got bad grades.

There was the side that was physically mean. He'd hurt himself and others.

Since he's been with his dad, got his way, my sweet child has come back out. He got A honor roll the whole school year. He is really happy, and doesn't get in trouble. He started to get in trouble when he first went to his dads. His dad realized really fast that I wasn't just being mean, and he put a stop to it. Letting him go was so hard, but it's made him happy. He loves being with his dad. I don't know if it's because he didn't see his dad much before. Barely talked to him. He'd go 2 months sometimes without seeing or hearing from him. Now he has him all the time, and he's happy. It breaks my heart so much that he's happier at his dads, but it makes me happy that he is.

He was with me for the past 10 days, I've missed having him home with me all the time. He went back to his dads so they can go on their vacation, and he can spend some time with his sister while she's with his dad. Then he'll come back for the rest of the summer. Having him home with me, then go back to his dads is killing me. I hate not having him with me. I see him every weekend, so it's not like I don't see him, but weekends go by so fast. It seems like as soon as he gets here, he's going back home. I love having my sweet boy back, seeing him happy, and his hugs again.

Last week, he gave me a big hug and says "Thanks for being the best Mom in the whole world" Melted my heart, made me cry, and then he says "But ya don't have to be a baby about it!" Thanks baby boy....I love you to!

How Old is too Old?

After reading this story on Fox News, it got me thinking.

This is a woman 72 years old, and had an IVF at 70. I understand the want to and yearning to be a mother, but I think 70 is more than pushing the age at which a woman has become too old to become one. Did she really believe that she could care for a baby, would she be able to run and play w/ that kid when it was 5 and 6? Who's responsibility is this?

Now she's 72, dying and this baby is 18 months old. She isn't strong enough to hold her daughter. They are blaming the Dr for not telling them it was a risk to have a baby at her age, saying they are uneducated people. They were educated enough to know about IVF, they were educated enough to pull out loans to have the procedure done, but not educated enough to know it was a health risk? I'm just not buying it. Do I believe the Dr was wrong for doing it? Absolutely, but they can't go blaming him for not telling them it was a health risk. I just can't believe they didn't know that.

So that brings me to the question....how old is too old? At what age should a Dr refuse to do IVF? When should women stop trying to have children?

Monday Minute

1 - What's the specs of the first computer you owned?
Do you really expect me to remember that long ago. The first computer I used was Dos based. That's about as much as I can tell you, because back then, I wasn't all into know about them.

2 - Are you on Twitter/Facebook/etc, if so link it/them up
I am on Twitter, and facebook, but gotta figure out how to get them back on my blog since I went and changed things. Oops.

3 - Who's more to blame for the oil mess in the gulf - BP or the Gov't and why?
I'm not going to point fingers on this one. Blaming one or the other is not going to get this fixed and in the end, saving as many animals and land is all that really matters to me.

4 - What's your favorite Dr. Suess book?
Please please please don't shoot me....but I was never a big fan!

And finally...

5 - What did you want to be when you grew up?
A model, a lawyer, a mom. I achieved one, almost achieved another, didn't even come close to one.

Friday Follow & My Busy Week

It's Friday and that means it's time for the awesome Friday Follow! This week my wonderful "damn clean friend" Heather is featured. So be sure to link up and check out her blog as well!

So it's been a while since I posted, or have been around to blogs. SORRY! This past week has been crazy. Supervisor at work wanting to quit, new rules, new responsibilities, and trying to clean up after several other peoples mess has had me stressed to the max at work. Thanks Heather for being so patient and listening to me whine, bitch, and complain this past week.

So on top of work stress there has been home stress. Hubby and daughter are fighting like a couple of elementary kids, and I swear they are going to be the death of me. 

So I'm back, I'll be around, I'm making it around to blogs....I've missed you all!

Happy Birthday Lexi!

Well she's gone and done it, she's turned 15! This is not what I wanted for her, I wanted for her to remain a little girl forever! My little girl is growing up so fast. I can't believe she's 15 already. It seems like yesterday she was 5 yrs old, clinging to my side and chattering away about what ever. Now she's 15, still clinging to my side (which I LOVE) and chattering away about what ever. This day is such a hard day for me. 12 broke my heart, 13 darn near killed me, 14 I was kind of ok with. But 15, this is tearing me apart. Maybe it's because she is starting high school next year also, maybe it's me realizing that in 3 short years she'll be 18 and that means she's an adult (so to speak). I don't know but this hurts. I've cried, nearly every day for the past week knowing this day was coming. If I'm like this now, what will I be like at 16 and 18? Oh this poor child! Sadly I'm already thinking about her 16th birthday and what can I do to make it a really big one?

Sunday night she had a sleepover with 3 of her friends. That was fun! Yeah, 3 14 year old girls, giggly and loud as can be. OK who am I lying to, I loved every minute listening to their giggles. She hasn't had a boyfriend yet, how am I gonna handle that? Certainly one day she's gonna have one, she's gonna want him to come to the house, and I'm gonna sit the guns on the table, is that fair? Why does my little girl have to grow up?!? Why can't we put them in a little jar and keep them little and safe always?

I lost a lot of pictures when Ivan went through Pensacola and knocked 2 trees through the roof, soaking every picture I had of my kids growing up, but I do have a few that I had scanned, so here we go through the years:

Here she is just a few days old, isn't she just beautiful!

Her first Halloween, she was 4 months old. She was such a happy baby, always smiling and laughing!

 She was almost 2 in this picture, and aside from this being the only picture you will probably ever see of me in a dress, my little girl was beautiful!

 

 She was 3 almost 4 in these pictures. Still smiling as always!

She was 6 years old in this picture, she has such big beautiful eyes!

My little Cinderella, she always wanted to be a witch, but that year I insisted she be something else.

10 years old and as happy as can be!

11 years old and her first day of dance!

This is the day I got married, just before her 13th birthday.

14 years old, and today my baby girl turns 15!

I love you so much Lexi, you have brought a tremendous amount of joy and love to my life!