Tuesday, June 29, 2010

I Have A Situation

I started working at my current job September '09. Shortly after I started working there one of the guys, I'll call him "Joe" started making stupid comments. "You're beautiful" "Your hot" "I'm in love w/ you" "If you weren't married, would you marry me" "If you weren't married, would you go on a date w/ me"
So annoying as hell....did it bother me, ehhh, it got on my nerves but I can take it. Then one day he started touching me, first it was his hand on the top of my back, then my lower back, rubbing my arms, and then one day while I was sitting in my chair touching my inner thigh. I flipped! But I still kept my mouth shut. I had just started, and I didn't want to be fired. The big boss scares the hell out of me.
Then it continued, and finally one day I was about to blow. So I asked my supervisor how I could make it stop. I couldn't take it anymore, I was really ready to hit him. So she went to the GM who pretty much told him to stop. They didn't fire him, and I was ok with that....thinking I wouldn't have to see him anymore because he now works at the building next door, and he has kids so I don't wanna see any kids go hungry. I might be pissed, but I still have a heart. But now, now that he wants to run his mouth, tell everyone that works here, and tell them that I lied, now my blood is boiling, and I am pissed. Now I don't care if he gets fired. Now I don't care if the b*&%^ goes to hell. Now, he has really pissed me off. Why should I be embarrassed by what he did? Why should I have to explain myself to these people? Why do I have to feel like I did something wrong?
Ok so I wrote the above part while I was at work and fuming. I had to write it or let it out of my mouth. When my supervisor came in I told her she could shut his mouth quietly or I was going to do it. She went to the GM again who called me in his office. Tears started flowing immediately. I'm telling you this man scares the hell out of me. In the office was myself, GM of where I work, my supervisor and the GM of the building he now works at. I explained to them that I didn't feel it was right that I had to be humiliated all over again, not only when he did it and I kept my mouth shut, but by him running around telling people, and obviously not the truth. GM asked me if I wanted him fired, said all I had to do was say the word and they'd fire him. Uhm...that's not my decision to make. I don't want that on my shoulders. As GM, that was and should be his call, to do what is right for the company. I can't make that decision. I can't risk his kids going hungry....I just can't. The mommy in me worries about the kids. Screw him, but the kids can't be punished for his ignorance. Pretty much bottom line, I told him I never wanted to have to see him again. They said that'd be done. How? I don't know and don't care. The GM asked me why I didn't say something sooner, here's why: I was the new girl, I didn't want them to think I was there just to start trouble. I didn't want to lose my job. But most of all, I didn't want what is happening to happen, I'm now uncomfortable at work. I love my job though. GM says to me that he sees and appreciates everything I do, that I'm a very valued employee and he thinks I am great at what I do. All very nice, but I don't ever want to see that S.O.B ever again. I don't ever want to hear from another person what he has told them. So now we will see.


  1. I totally understand where you are coming from when you want to protect the kiddos. But really this isn't only sexual harasment it is alot bigger than that. He is an adult and should ack like one. I say FIRE his dumb self!!!!

  2. I'm still pissed over that. If they are not going to fire him then make his ass stay where he is. He does not even need to be in the building your in.

  3. You can sleep easy! you did the right thing and gave this guy more then he deserves. You HAD to report what he was doing...besides, chances are, if he is doing this to you, is is also doing it to someone else,

    Chin up my friend!

  4. what a d-bag!!! hopefully both of his children are girls, wouldn't want him to pass that behavior onto BOYS!! ugh...hopefully this will correct your situation!!

  5. You did nothing wrong and should have never been put into that situation, if he loses his job and his kids feel that hunger pang that is because he is stupid not because you refused to be abused by his idiotic ways.

    Don't ever feel it is your fault for turning him in, he deserves a lot more punishment than losing his job in my opinion, people like this deserve to be in jail and on the other end of the hand they give to others.

    You can sleep well because you are in the right here.

  6. I'm surprised they didn't bend over backwards to make this right for you. You have a sexual harassment suit in the making!

  7. It's hard knowing that he has kids to support, but on the other hand he's an adult and responsible for his actions.

    I think if your supervisor and boss dealt with the issue properly the first time all this wouldn't happen. It's not fair to you and putting you in that situation is absolutely wrong.

  8. Oh girl, I'm so sorry. This is a total sexual harassment suit in the making. You did nothing wrong. And I think it was poor of the GM to put the possibility of him being fired on your shoulders. You so did the right thing. xoxo

  9. You did the right thing girl! Standing up for yourself is what you need to do. Why are there so many creeps out there that think they can get away with this stuff.

    Enjoy your vacation and don't think about this!